Wish it was like this...

One of the girls from another group got me started on watching the TV show, Army Wives. I know I'm behind, as I don't have Lifetime as part of my package, so I'm a few episodes back.  Anyway, last night, Roxy's character suffered a miscarriage and it was so nice to see her friends rally around her. The took her to the hospital, they took care of her kids, they stocked her fridge with groceries and were "there" for her.  In today's episode, Roxy's friend, Denise, told her that she just found out she was pregnant as well.  It was so refreshing to see a TV character struggle with such news from a good friend while also dealing with her own grief and pain.  I was so pleased to see a miscarriage portrayed realistically on TV - finally!! It was so refreshing for a miscarriage to span more than one episode and to be portrayed as an event which affects so many parts of our lives, and that it keeps coming back, that the memory or pain never fully goes away.


I remember a few months ago, just a short time after we lost our angel, I was watching an episode of The Young and the Restless, where Victoria's character suffered a miscarriage.  She seemed to go through the loss, be "ok" with it, and move on to adopting a child within a few days/weeks.  I was so annoyed that the show portrayed it as a fleeting thing which you 'get over' and 'move on'.  While I do recognize that some women definitely feel that way, from those that I've been in touch with, it appears that most of us don't just "bounce back".


So allow me to applaud Army Wives, along with Sally Pressman, for portraying our pain, our sorrow and our grief.  I cried more tears during that episode than any other. So Thank you for bringing the 'taboo' subject of miscarriages to the forefront and for showing your audience how they should treat and care for a family which has suffered such a great loss.  I admit that I was jealous that Roxy had such caring people around her, as I would have loved if someone had made dinner for us during our difficult time (Freddie would make frozen pizzas for us for a few days, as neither one of us was capable of thinking far enough ahead to coordinate dinner) or dropped in to check on us, even now.  I know I'll never meet Sally Pressman or the show's writers, and I know that they'll never know how much they touched me with that episode, but I just want to say a huge THANK YOU!